What is Love?

Some people have no idea what real love is. They mistake the hormones and sexual attraction for love and when these wear off they start to fight, eventually ending in divorce. Of course you need to be attracted to each other in order to fall in love but it isn't what love is all about. Or at least it shouldn't be.

Real love is something that some people have no idea about. They start to fight, eventually ending in divorce when the hormones and sexual attraction they mistake for love wear off. Of course you need to be attracted to each other in order to fall in love but it isn’t what love is all about. Or at least it shouldn’t be.

Real love is about respect and expectations as well as physical attraction. What initially starts as a burning fire of lust will develop into a much deeper bond of mutual attraction based on trust, respect and expectations. Your inner most thoughts and desires can be shared with this person, because you trust them. You respect them as a person and try to support them in their quest for their personal goals. You expect them to behave as your companion, your supporter and someone who is always there to support you. In private they will be attentive and considerate and they will never put you down in public.

In order to share real love with your partner you must respect their value as a human being. It helps if you share the same ideals and values. If one is positive while the other is negative you will not be able to become as close than if you both have positive energy.

When you respect each other as individuals you will help each other grow and achieve things together. When you share common goals be they your hopes for your children or financial aspirations, you will work together to achieve them.

You will find it easier to love when you are successful in all areas of your life. Unless you love yourself, it is impossible to love someone else. Before you have the emotional capacity to share your life and love with someone else you have to know and accept yourself first. Positivity attracts other positive people. You are will attract people who are self confident and secure in the same way by being like this too.

When you grow and develop as a person, your loved one must also share that growth. Otherwise you can fall out of balance and your energy fields may start attacking rather than complimenting each other. You know that to remain in love takes work. It is not all about hormones and sex but a commitment to develop a greater understanding and maturity. You want to grow old with this person. When you are in your twilight years, you want to walk down a beach together holding hands.

To grow strong roots, love needs water and nurturing, like flower.