Dating Army Singles? The First E-mail Blunders

Committed an E-mail blunder? Guilty as charged? There are a few things that people often oversee when composing their first e-mails to their forces penpals. It may seem just an innocent e-mail but what you've actually done is an e-mail "DON'T". You don't have to worry though, there are a number of online uniform daters who have committed the same mistake as you, so before committing another e-mail crime, be warned.

Most of the time, the e-mail don'ts are actually the most obvious. Even a newbie could tell. But there are still some very glaring mistakes that some people keep making, just because they do not know that it is a mistake, so let's try to discuss a few of them in this blog article so that we may keep from scaring away those singles and in the process, to start internet dating. Here goes:

1. Overselling. Avoid sounding too desperate so don't go over the edge in trying to sell yourself. It is commendable to be upfront and bold in making yourself stand out from the other people who are mailing that person, but you must try to downplay it a little. Why? Because most people don't like braggarts and people with too much confidence in themselves. Phrases like, "Girls are always chasing after me", or "I have guys wrapped around my finger all the time", it's your fastest ticket to the Delete button. Along with a raised eyebrow, a scoffing smile, and an "I-don't-believe-this-person" thought, that other person may get a wrong impression of you, and we sure don't want that to happen because we want them to realize how much of a good catch you actually are.

2. Underselling. Do not sell yourself short. You're a great person with an awesome personality, you just have to believe in yourself. Avoid statements that implies insecurity such as "I know you have far greater people on your list than me" or "If you're interested, you can view my profile", or worse "You probably won't like me anyway", these phrases connote a low self-esteem and low self-confidence and surely it will get you nowhere. As the saying goes, "People love people who love themselves", but just not too much, you'd come off as a narcissist. They probably would not want to go out with someone who thinks that they aren't worth the salt.

3. Creepiness. Downplay the stalker attitude. Don't mention everything, first things first, avoid sounding like a stalker but read their profiles thoroughly. Don't suggest that you two meet up right away in your first e-mail, because it would sound rather suspicious. Nor should you be too provoking or amorous. Because then, that would earn you a one-way ticket to the "Blocked User" list.